Paige Webster


The Pursuit of Immeasurable Impact

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“Teachers affect eternity; no one can tell where their influence stops.” – Henry Brooks Adams I began my first career as a high school English teacher, full of idealism about the impact I would have on my students. The reason I went into teaching (aside from being completely clueless about what else I might do with my life), was because I wanted to have a positive impact on kids. Yet, I don’t know what impact, good and bad, I had on my students. I know some of the impact I had on some students. If the reason I went into […]

Spirituality: The Accidental Tourist

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“When did God become such a judgmental prick?” Pam Grout asks in her book Thank and Grow Rich. “When humans took over,” is the grim reply in my head. I believe we are all on a spiritual journey, whether we realize it or not. The quest to find answers to questions like, “Why am I here? What does it all mean?” is a spiritual one, and I also believe, universal. Yet, I have been loathe to turn to the religion of my upbringing for answers. Self-help books seemed a lot more practical. The highlight of my first communion was that we […]

A New Kind of Revolution: The Politics of Listening

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This may not be a popular opinion. I’m writing it anyway because my own integrity requires it. First, I do not like what I see and hear on the news about what is happening in our country. In fact, I became so disempowered by the news that I opted out about 18 months ago. I just stopped paying attention and figured if there was something I needed to know, I’d hear about it eventually. This chafes my mother to no end. I’m not saying this was a good approach nor am I advocating you follow it. I’m just saying it’s […]

Falling Down the Rabbit Hole: Navigating Ambiguity

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In the last month, I’ve had several conversations with clients about the negative impact ambiguity is having on their careers or the careers of their direct reports. Likewise, it is THE thing that paralyzes me in my business. I’d argue that the ability to navigate ambiguity is what separates success from failure. I was a good student in school (usually). School taught me to look for the answer and to be able to cough it up on tests, even during class “discussions.” I am always looking for the right answer. It’s not fair to blame it on our education system; […]

Are You Living Your Practice Life or Your Real Life?

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As a life and career coach, I’m supposed to have my shit together. But I don’t. I don’t make enough money to pay my bills. I don’t eat right. I don’t have a life partner. I’ll never be in shape the way I was when I was swimming 4 miles a day. Or when I was training for a marathon. It’s beyond embarrassing to admit this—that I don’t have my shit together— yet, it’s so, so necessary. All these “shoulds” and “supposed tos” have stood between me … and everyone. No one ever really has ALL their shit figured out […]

Dangerous Misconceptions About “Self-Care”

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When did “self-care” become synonymous with getting our nails done? For the record, I love having my nails done, but it’s not self-care. My Self doesn’t need pretty nails; my ego does. (And, yes, I realize people paint their nails for other reasons.) When we talk about self-care, it’s essential to examine our motivations to be sure that we are supporting our Selves and health rather than inadvertently undermining our self-esteem. Self-care is not irresponsible indulgence; although true self-care may feel indulgent because it’s rarely practiced. Self-care is not about feeding our ego, which is insatiable. It’s not about what […]

What If It Really Is All About the Journey (or the Hokey Pokey)?

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I have to be honest. It makes me panic a little when I think life really is all about the journey and not the destination. Because that would mean, if I believed all that Buddhist-mindfulness-meditation-acceptance-is-the-answer logic, I should be able to make myself happy RIGHT NOW. I should find joy in every moment. I should embrace the suck. Pain is a portal. Ugh. The pressure. And, that, my friends is the problem. All those damn shoulds. All the supposed-to’s. All the have-to-or-else beliefs. All those expectations and pressures about how I ought to be living my life (but clearly am […]

Is It Time to Change the Playlist of Your Life?

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Given that music is such an integral part of our culture in the U.S. — and since I understand that language shapes reality— I got curious about how music impacts me. Does music influence how I interpret the world, aka “reality?” If including two little pronouns, i.e., they/them, can spawn a national conversation and influence a cultural shift to recognize and accept non-binary identities, then what impact does music, which many of us listen to all day, every day, have on how we perceive the world? It’s worth thinking about, right? What songs would be on the playlist to represent your life? Do you […]

What If Money Were Your Lover?

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Ewwww. That thought makes me squirm. I don’t really want to think about my behavior in relationship to money. But admitting my problem is the first step in solving it, right? My relationship with money certainly has evolved and taken many forms. I can tell you that, just like when I was married, I have dragged money to therapy so it can find out how it needs to fix itself. (You can see why I’m no longer married, right?!) Since starting my own coaching business, I’d say my money relationship has been more like the guy “who’s just not that […]

Is It Possible to Binge on Wellness?

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Did you know that the original marathon runner from ancient Greece, the guy who ran from Marathon to Athens to announce victory over the Persians, delivered his message, keeled over and died? True story. So why did we “modern” humans insist on taking a bad idea—running obscenely long distances— and turn it into a competition? Not only did we turn it into a race, we decided that running 26.2 miles isn’t enough, because now we have endurance races of over 100 miles. Too much of a good thing? It seems like we (and by “we” I guess I mean obsessive people) […]