Think of something incredible that has happened in your life.
Now think of the person who helped make it happen.
Maybe they made an introduction for you, or vouched for you and now you have had this amazing experience. Chances are that you’ve thanked this person profusely. You’ve likely told them how much their help has meant to you and maybe even sent them a gift. You feel good and they feel good and all feels right with the world.
And yet, you can’t help but feel like there’s something missing.
That nagging feeling may be just that, or it could be that you are forgetting someone in the equation who is forgotten all too often in these scenarios:
The Catalyst of The Relationship.
Most of the time our connections are not one-off connections. Most of the time there’s actually a chain of people who lead up to the big opportunity and since our memory is only so strong, we remember the most recent connection as opposed to where it all began. Think of any story in which a hero is equipped with tools to fight the villain and think about how often that person shows up again.
It’s all too common for us to focus on the present and often forget the people in our past who made the present possible.
For every accomplishment we make, there is a trail leading back to someone who started it all and all too often they end up being forgotten. But it doesn’t have to be that way. If we take a second when we have had an amazing experience and trace things back to the source, we can find those people and go back and thank them. Most people who are helpful are happy to be helpful and step aside and let you do your thing, but that doesn’t mean that they don’t deserve recognition for what they’ve done.
So take some time today to do some time traveling.
Think of your best moment this month. Was there someone who made an introduction or invited you to an event that made that moment possible? If so, how do you know that person? Who introduced you to them? Follow the trail and find the catalyst of the relationship.
Then say Thank You.
The forgotten do not need to remain forgotten.
They can be rediscovered and revered.