Are You Living Your Practice Life or Your Real Life?

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As a life and career coach, I’m supposed to have my shit together. But I don’t. I don’t make enough money to pay my bills. I don’t eat right. I don’t have a life partner. I’ll never be in shape the way I was when I was swimming 4 miles a day. Or when I was training for a marathon. It’s beyond embarrassing to admit this—that I don’t have my […]

Luxe Love Lifestyle

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What is our fascination with luxury? Why do we love it? If you were to describe the picture above, what comes to mind? Beauty, comfort, relaxation, opulence, love, care, cleanliness, gleaming, quiet, attention to detail, rest, private, exclusive, soft, warm, safe, restorative, healing, special, unique, rare, pristine, perfect, highest standards of excellence……to name a few? I’ve been grappling with my relationship to the material world and pursuit of worldly goods. […]

Culture Guru: Be Authentic. Also Culture Guru: But Not Like That.

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Have you ever looked in the mirror and been surprised that the person staring back at you was so much OLDER than you feel inside? That cognitive dissonance could be the result of a poorly defined self-image, but more often that not it’s because our core being doesn’t really age. Even as time passes and life presents new challenges and opportunities, who we are at our core remains unchanged, timeless. […]

When Positivity is Privilege: Nonviolent Communication for Emotional Intelligence

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Who among us hasn’t felt—in a moment of heartache or sorrow or rage or any other or so-called “negative” emotion—that if we just could change X about ourselves (or someone else) we could achieve Y, Z, or maybe the entire rest of the alphabet? The allure of this sort of magical thinking compells me to write frequently about the perils of positive psychology and for good reason: the more obsessed […]

One Step

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Lao Tzu famously wrote that the journey of a thousand miles starts with one step, which despite its face value, “yeah, no shit” philosophy, tells me that even the greatest achievements and distances are realized in the smallest of increments, and that paramount to all, is that there is a start. One must simply start, as small a step as it may be, in order to get from here to […]

Me and My Miata

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We met long before I bought her. While living in New York, I’d visit Oregon and Avery, my friend since 7th grade, would generously lend me her aqua-blue Miata to drive around Portland. Originally her grandfather’s retirement purchase, he had left it to her, and it was perfect for solo commutes and weekend rock climbing excursions. When I finally decided to move back to the West Coast, she had inherited […]

Running Toward Me

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The day that I left Indiana I had to pull over to the side of the road after passing the Illinois border to cry. I couldn’t contain myself and didn’t want to swerve into the median or off into the corn. I finally did it. I always wanted to leave Indianapolis, and for years I put it off. I was so afraid of what the possibility of self-actualization might look […]

What If It Really Is All About the Journey (or the Hokey Pokey)?

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I have to be honest. It makes me panic a little when I think life really is all about the journey and not the destination. Because that would mean, if I believed all that Buddhist-mindfulness-meditation-acceptance-is-the-answer logic, I should be able to make myself happy RIGHT NOW. I should find joy in every moment. I should embrace the suck. Pain is a portal. Ugh. The pressure. And, that, my friends is […]

Energy Accounting: 3 Ways to Manage Your Energy Like a Wealthy Person

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Explore these questions and more with Marissa this summer at Pregame HQ Energy, our personal life force, intrinsic motivation, vibe, ch’i, or aura have many qualitative measures. High vibration is considered preferable, while low vibration is associated with negative attitudes. Frenetic comes across as a rather annoying – an unnecessary expenditure. Slow, slothy energy gets a bad wrap for being a drag. Assessing energy by these qualitative measures is subjective, […]

June 2019: Journeys

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Pregame is all about goals, but lately, we’ve been talk about souls. The daily “workouts” at the Pregame Clubhouse focus on business: clarifying your goals, creating a game plan, staying accountable for your actions, and connecting with the people who will help move you forward. But why are we doing it? What is the point of building a business? For Pregame members, it’s about building an extraordinary and authentic life. […]