When Positivity is Privilege: Nonviolent Communication for Emotional Intelligence

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Who among us hasn’t felt—in a moment of heartache or sorrow or rage or any other or so-called “negative” emotion—that if we just could change X about ourselves (or someone else) we could achieve Y, Z, or maybe the entire rest of the alphabet? The allure of this sort of magical thinking compells me to write frequently about the perils of positive psychology and for good reason: the more obsessed […]

One Step

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Lao Tzu famously wrote that the journey of a thousand miles starts with one step, which despite its face value, “yeah, no shit” philosophy, tells me that even the greatest achievements and distances are realized in the smallest of increments, and that paramount to all, is that there is a start. One must simply start, as small a step as it may be, in order to get from here to […]

Me and My Miata

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We met long before I bought her. While living in New York, I’d visit Oregon and Avery, my friend since 7th grade, would generously lend me her aqua-blue Miata to drive around Portland. Originally her grandfather’s retirement purchase, he had left it to her, and it was perfect for solo commutes and weekend rock climbing excursions. When I finally decided to move back to the West Coast, she had inherited […]

Running Toward Me

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The day that I left Indiana I had to pull over to the side of the road after passing the Illinois border to cry. I couldn’t contain myself and didn’t want to swerve into the median or off into the corn. I finally did it. I always wanted to leave Indianapolis, and for years I put it off. I was so afraid of what the possibility of self-actualization might look […]

What If It Really Is All About the Journey (or the Hokey Pokey)?

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I have to be honest. It makes me panic a little when I think life really is all about the journey and not the destination. Because that would mean, if I believed all that Buddhist-mindfulness-meditation-acceptance-is-the-answer logic, I should be able to make myself happy RIGHT NOW. I should find joy in every moment. I should embrace the suck. Pain is a portal. Ugh. The pressure. And, that, my friends is […]

Energy Accounting: 3 Ways to Manage Your Energy Like a Wealthy Person

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Explore these questions and more with Marissa this summer at Pregame HQ Energy, our personal life force, intrinsic motivation, vibe, ch’i, or aura have many qualitative measures. High vibration is considered preferable, while low vibration is associated with negative attitudes. Frenetic comes across as a rather annoying – an unnecessary expenditure. Slow, slothy energy gets a bad wrap for being a drag. Assessing energy by these qualitative measures is subjective, […]

June 2019: Journeys

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Pregame is all about goals, but lately, we’ve been talk about souls. The daily “workouts” at the Pregame Clubhouse focus on business: clarifying your goals, creating a game plan, staying accountable for your actions, and connecting with the people who will help move you forward. But why are we doing it? What is the point of building a business? For Pregame members, it’s about building an extraordinary and authentic life. […]

We Are All Entrepreneurs: Being the CEO of You, Inc.

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In today’s culture, entrepreneurship is glorified. But for all the wrong reasons. We elevate founders – well, the conventionally successful ones – to heights previously reserved only for rock bands and movie stars. Success, the ultimate American value, is exemplified by the narrative of the solo dreamer who had an idea and then through grit, determination, and deserved good fortune, achieved fame and material wealth within his lifetime. Of course, […]

At the Corner of Wisdom and Love

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I find myself, thirty-nine years old, at the self-help book stage of my life. It dawned on me about two years ago (and progressively became more clear as time went by) that I knew next to nothing of value to me. Give me a hammer and I’d build you a fence, give me a piano and I’d play you a song, show me a sentence and I’d diagram it, but […]

The State of My Estate

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My next door neighbor died nine months ago. His name was Tom. We lived across from each other for seven years.  He lived a very quiet, modest life, only owning a beat up car that rarely started, and a few antique furniture pieces. He kept cash hidden under his bed (he didn’t trust big banks), and lived alone in a rent-controlled apartment for thirty years. Over the years, a handful […]