Book Brief: The Power of Fun

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The Power of FUN By David Raymond 2016, SDR Consulting & Dave Raymond The Idea Fun is often overlooked as a powerful business tool. Not only can it help businesses succeed, in the case of author David Raymond, it can be the root of your business. In the summer of 1978, Raymond, an underpaid Philadelphia Phillies intern, donned the Phillie Phanatic costume for the first time at the bequest of Phillies management, who created the character as a distraction to the baseball teams dismal on the field performance. Raymond shares what he learned from his 16 years in the green, […]

November 2019: Spiritual Journeys

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Have you heard of the “Nones?” A None is a clever homynym for the religion-free American. In a country where most previously felt compelled to identify with a religion, even if not actively participating, it’s now acceptable in most circles to declare “none of the above.” Still, the desire for spiritual actualization remains. We’re just finding it in less traditional spaces. When I was dreaming up Pregame, one of the questions I asked was “What would it look like to create ‘church’ for entrepreneurs?” Entrepreneurs being a catch-all for the creative, ambitious, collaborative people I saw all around me, craving […]

Are You Living Your Practice Life or Your Real Life?

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As a life and career coach, I’m supposed to have my shit together. But I don’t. I don’t make enough money to pay my bills. I don’t eat right. I don’t have a life partner. I’ll never be in shape the way I was when I was swimming 4 miles a day. Or when I was training for a marathon. It’s beyond embarrassing to admit this—that I don’t have my shit together— yet, it’s so, so necessary. All these “shoulds” and “supposed tos” have stood between me … and everyone. No one ever really has ALL their shit figured out […]

Luxe Love Lifestyle

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What is our fascination with luxury? Why do we love it? If you were to describe the picture above, what comes to mind? Beauty, comfort, relaxation, opulence, love, care, cleanliness, gleaming, quiet, attention to detail, rest, private, exclusive, soft, warm, safe, restorative, healing, special, unique, rare, pristine, perfect, highest standards of excellence……to name a few? I’ve been grappling with my relationship to the material world and pursuit of worldly goods. I was raised in a conservative and humble household. While we placed an emphasis on quality, somehow I became enchanted with luxury, brands, high-end accommodations and experiences. I’d like to […]

Culture Guru: Be Authentic. Also Culture Guru: But Not Like That.

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Have you ever looked in the mirror and been surprised that the person staring back at you was so much OLDER than you feel inside? That cognitive dissonance could be the result of a poorly defined self-image, but more often that not it’s because our core being doesn’t really age. Even as time passes and life presents new challenges and opportunities, who we are at our core remains unchanged, timeless. I call this the Authentic Self. The term authenticity is overused and hackneyed, yet it has always been and continues to be the bedrock of my ethos. My work as […]

When Positivity is Privilege: Nonviolent Communication for Emotional Intelligence

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Who among us hasn’t felt—in a moment of heartache or sorrow or rage or any other or so-called “negative” emotion—that if we just could change X about ourselves (or someone else) we could achieve Y, Z, or maybe the entire rest of the alphabet? The allure of this sort of magical thinking compells me to write frequently about the perils of positive psychology and for good reason: the more obsessed mainstream America becomes obsessed with “good vibes only” the less tolerant and inclusive we become. In fact, in many ways, positive psychology is like a new form of evangelism, one […]

One Step

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Lao Tzu famously wrote that the journey of a thousand miles starts with one step, which despite its face value, “yeah, no shit” philosophy, tells me that even the greatest achievements and distances are realized in the smallest of increments, and that paramount to all, is that there is a start. One must simply start, as small a step as it may be, in order to get from here to there, as great a distance as that may be. I find myself at the precipice of the trip of a lifetime, but much different than any I’ve ever taken before. […]

Me and My Miata

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We met long before I bought her. While living in New York, I’d visit Oregon and Avery, my friend since 7th grade, would generously lend me her aqua-blue Miata to drive around Portland. Originally her grandfather’s retirement purchase, he had left it to her, and it was perfect for solo commutes and weekend rock climbing excursions. When I finally decided to move back to the West Coast, she had inherited a van from her grandmother, and knew her future family plans would require a back seat. In her second most momentous act of motherhood, she sold the Miata to me. I hadn’t […]

Running Toward Me

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The day that I left Indiana I had to pull over to the side of the road after passing the Illinois border to cry. I couldn’t contain myself and didn’t want to swerve into the median or off into the corn. I finally did it. I always wanted to leave Indianapolis, and for years I put it off. I was so afraid of what the possibility of self-actualization might look like that I was paralyzed. Until that moment I had never been overwhelmed with happiness and I was moved to tears, both unexpected surprises. The day that I landed in […]

What If It Really Is All About the Journey (or the Hokey Pokey)?

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I have to be honest. It makes me panic a little when I think life really is all about the journey and not the destination. Because that would mean, if I believed all that Buddhist-mindfulness-meditation-acceptance-is-the-answer logic, I should be able to make myself happy RIGHT NOW. I should find joy in every moment. I should embrace the suck. Pain is a portal. Ugh. The pressure. And, that, my friends is the problem. All those damn shoulds. All the supposed-to’s. All the have-to-or-else beliefs. All those expectations and pressures about how I ought to be living my life (but clearly am […]