A New Kind of Revolution: The Politics of Listening

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This may not be a popular opinion. I’m writing it anyway because my own integrity requires it. First, I do not like what I see and hear on the news about what is happening in our country. In fact, I became so disempowered by the news that I opted out about 18 months ago. I just stopped paying attention and figured if there was something I needed to know, I’d hear about it eventually. This chafes my mother to no end. I’m not saying this was a good approach nor am I advocating you follow it. I’m just saying it’s […]

Six Things You Can Do Right Now to Move Toward Finding Your Soulmate

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In 2013, I decided to make some significant changes in my life.  I was divorced, working in administrative assistant level positions, doodling on the sides of my notebooks, and wondering where my ambition and passion had gone. What was I doing?! What did I really want in my one, beautiful life? Luckily I had some great friends on the same journey. Asking themselves the same questions. One of those friends was Heidi Busche Jasmond. Heidi was two steps ahead in her journey of self-discovery and finding love. I got to watch her do the work that has now become her […]

Running Toward Me

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The day that I left Indiana I had to pull over to the side of the road after passing the Illinois border to cry. I couldn’t contain myself and didn’t want to swerve into the median or off into the corn. I finally did it. I always wanted to leave Indianapolis, and for years I put it off. I was so afraid of what the possibility of self-actualization might look like that I was paralyzed. Until that moment I had never been overwhelmed with happiness and I was moved to tears, both unexpected surprises. The day that I landed in […]

We Are All Entrepreneurs: Being the CEO of You, Inc.

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In today’s culture, entrepreneurship is glorified. But for all the wrong reasons. We elevate founders – well, the conventionally successful ones – to heights previously reserved only for rock bands and movie stars. Success, the ultimate American value, is exemplified by the narrative of the solo dreamer who had an idea and then through grit, determination, and deserved good fortune, achieved fame and material wealth within his lifetime. Of course, this story is a fabrication. No one achieves success alone. The road from idea to IPO is never a straight, ascending line. And the original seed was usually planted in […]

At the Corner of Wisdom and Love

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I find myself, thirty-nine years old, at the self-help book stage of my life. It dawned on me about two years ago (and progressively became more clear as time went by) that I knew next to nothing of value to me. Give me a hammer and I’d build you a fence, give me a piano and I’d play you a song, show me a sentence and I’d diagram it, but ask me a couple years ago to articulate my needs and I’d sit there, baffled. Ask me what I’m feeling and I didn’t actually have the vocabulary. I didn’t even […]

Confessions of a Life Coach: Does Goal-Setting Really Matter?

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  Confession #1: I don’t like setting goals. They scare me. Setting a goal raises the possibility that I won’t reach it. If I never commit to anything, I can’t fail, right? Oy. If only that were true. I spent a few years living without making any goals. The problem was that I wasn’t really living. When I don’t commit to a challenge, I don’t grow, and if I don’t grow, I feel unmoored and lost. Or firmly stuck in a rut. Either way, not committing to a goal is a fast-track to depression. But setting an unrealistic goal, or […]

Approaching the New Year with Love

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The New Year comes like a new baby: unavoidable, headlong, and full of promise. We can worry that the amount of promise the new year brings is entirely up to us (and that is certainly one way to look at it), but as with a new baby, the new year will most likely thrive and bring us all the joy and fullness we could hope for, if only we approach it with one thing. As my Uncle Claudio says when I start arguing as to why I am afraid to have children, “It is just love, Christina. Very simple.” Easy […]

A Story About Love and Asking and Listening in Silence

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Once a week I take a morning run up into the park behind my home with my furry little friend, Max. It’s windy and steep and lush with new Spring growth this time of year – a feast for the senses.  At the turnaround meadow, I sit in silence for a few minutes and meditate. Looking forward to this special quiet time at the halfway mark is what gets me out the door every time. This morning after a few minutes of sitting in silence, I asked myself what intention I wanted to set for today’s meditation. LOVE: receiving and […]

To My Younger Self

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Be Unapologetically You. Trust who you are, beyond what others have placed upon you. Know the person you have stared at your entire life is out of this world gorgeous inside and out! Those blemishes and imperfections are proof you exist in this world where we are asked to continuously find our core and trust that space beyond anything else. You will have days when you lose your cool; moments you will break down without explanation, mornings you cannot seem to drag yourself out of bed to only do it all over again. In those moments be grateful for this […]

Narrative Harmony

Cousins’ fundraiser poster features a collage from “Mapping Soulville” created in collaboration with her neighbors. Proceeds support the expansion of the project into other historically black NYC neighborhoods in 2017.

Brittanie Richardson is an artist and activist working to abolish sex slavery. Her latest project is the Art and Abolition Movement. My ability to believe pretty much anything is probably biggest asset as well as my greatest flaw. It’s great because I am the best at “Your dreams are valid. You can be anything you want to be if you just believe” and all that. I have a pretty amazing job thanks the whole “believe it, achieve it” narrative. But it also kind of sucks because I have the ability to jump to the very worst of conclusions and create the […]