Dangerous Misconceptions About “Self-Care”

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When did “self-care” become synonymous with getting our nails done? For the record, I love having my nails done, but it’s not self-care. My Self doesn’t need pretty nails; my ego does. (And, yes, I realize people paint their nails for other reasons.) When we talk about self-care, it’s essential to examine our motivations to be sure that we are supporting our Selves and health rather than inadvertently undermining our […]

When Positivity is Privilege: Nonviolent Communication for Emotional Intelligence

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Who among us hasn’t felt—in a moment of heartache or sorrow or rage or any other or so-called “negative” emotion—that if we just could change X about ourselves (or someone else) we could achieve Y, Z, or maybe the entire rest of the alphabet? The allure of this sort of magical thinking compells me to write frequently about the perils of positive psychology and for good reason: the more obsessed […]

Running Toward Me

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The day that I left Indiana I had to pull over to the side of the road after passing the Illinois border to cry. I couldn’t contain myself and didn’t want to swerve into the median or off into the corn. I finally did it. I always wanted to leave Indianapolis, and for years I put it off. I was so afraid of what the possibility of self-actualization might look […]

What If It Really Is All About the Journey (or the Hokey Pokey)?

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I have to be honest. It makes me panic a little when I think life really is all about the journey and not the destination. Because that would mean, if I believed all that Buddhist-mindfulness-meditation-acceptance-is-the-answer logic, I should be able to make myself happy RIGHT NOW. I should find joy in every moment. I should embrace the suck. Pain is a portal. Ugh. The pressure. And, that, my friends is […]

The Road That Built You

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Retrospection is well-established as a critical business tool. Whether we’re comparing this year’s sales results to last year’s, providing employee feedback, or analyzing a project’s success, we all agree on the value of looking backward in time, to see what it can teach us. However, when it comes to the personal, we often discourage each other from too much looking back. We have a library of cliches and platitudes. “Don’t […]

Energy Accounting: 3 Ways to Manage Your Energy Like a Wealthy Person

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Explore these questions and more with Marissa this summer at Pregame HQ Energy, our personal life force, intrinsic motivation, vibe, ch’i, or aura have many qualitative measures. High vibration is considered preferable, while low vibration is associated with negative attitudes. Frenetic comes across as a rather annoying – an unnecessary expenditure. Slow, slothy energy gets a bad wrap for being a drag. Assessing energy by these qualitative measures is subjective, […]

June 2019: Journeys

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Pregame is all about goals, but lately, we’ve been talk about souls. The daily “workouts” at the Pregame Clubhouse focus on business: clarifying your goals, creating a game plan, staying accountable for your actions, and connecting with the people who will help move you forward. But why are we doing it? What is the point of building a business? For Pregame members, it’s about building an extraordinary and authentic life. […]

We Are All Entrepreneurs: Being the CEO of You, Inc.

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In today’s culture, entrepreneurship is glorified. But for all the wrong reasons. We elevate founders – well, the conventionally successful ones – to heights previously reserved only for rock bands and movie stars. Success, the ultimate American value, is exemplified by the narrative of the solo dreamer who had an idea and then through grit, determination, and deserved good fortune, achieved fame and material wealth within his lifetime. Of course, […]

The Path Isn’t Straight

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Sure, yesterday was Cinco de Mayo. But did you know Saturday was World Labyrinth Day? Neither did I, nor did I see the point of labyrinths. Which is why I knew I had to try one. Ever the adventurer, I’m endlessly curious about ways the external world can heighten insights on our inner truths. I also know that the things I resist can be my best teachers. And I just happened to […]

At the Corner of Wisdom and Love

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I find myself, thirty-nine years old, at the self-help book stage of my life. It dawned on me about two years ago (and progressively became more clear as time went by) that I knew next to nothing of value to me. Give me a hammer and I’d build you a fence, give me a piano and I’d play you a song, show me a sentence and I’d diagram it, but […]