My Career Story: Heidi Busche, Relationship Coach

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Name: Heidi Busche Current Job: Speaker, Author, Relationship Expert.  Founder of Heidi B Coaching. Current Place: Portland, OR by way of Iowa, Pittsburgh, Denver, and Ireland. Hometown: Bettendorf, IA Age: 40 What I wanted to be when I grew up: Madonna – I can remember being like, I want to major in music with a minor in Madonna. College degree: Bachelor of Science (BS); Political Science, University of Pittsburgh.  Masters of Science (MS); Political Science, Portland State University What do you love about what you do? I love all of the PR that comes with owning a business and marketing […]

I Need A Hug… A Single Extrovert’s Worst Nightmare

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Here we are, through March 2020, where most of us probably feel like February was four years ago instead of four weeks. Our lives have been turned upside down, and let me tell you, this weekend was one of the hardest times of my entire life. I don’t think I’ve experienced sadness or anxiety like I have since I was a little girl trying to figure out my childhood that forced me to grow up and take care of myself much faster than any five year old should. Saturday I took a 48-mile bike ride just to wear out some […]

Love and Lessons

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I’m not going to make up statistics, but it seems like most people become parents on accident and then improvise as needed, accepting their new role, as humans do, fairly easily. I think I may have a skewed view of that, and the ‘accidents’ just stick with my memory better, but it does seem that more times than not, it’s either a true accident or something along the lines of “well, we weren’t NOT trying.” I love that one. Nothing like a double negative to soften a vulnerable position. When I decided at 39 to get pregnant, I had my […]

The Pursuit of Immeasurable Impact

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“Teachers affect eternity; no one can tell where their influence stops.” – Henry Brooks Adams I began my first career as a high school English teacher, full of idealism about the impact I would have on my students. The reason I went into teaching (aside from being completely clueless about what else I might do with my life), was because I wanted to have a positive impact on kids. Yet, I don’t know what impact, good and bad, I had on my students. I know some of the impact I had on some students. If the reason I went into […]

Performative Reciprocity

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I have a friend who really loves to do calls where we get into the weeds of relationship-building methodologies. He enjoys digging deeper into the frameworks I’ve developed and in all our calls he gets me to go even deeper into the work that I do. And before I get into the topic he brought up, I’ll also add that having someone like this in your circle can be incredibly valuable to the rigor of your work. There are those who will take your ideas at face value and then there are those who will challenge your ideas with questions. […]

[excerpt] Relationship Ready: How I Stopped Fucking Randos and Started Cupcaking My Soulmate

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The following is the Introduction from Heidi Busche’s new book, Relationship Ready: How I Stopped Fucking Randos and Started Cupcaking My Soulmate, available now on Amazon.com! If you’re still interested in casually dating, friends with benefit-ing, or fucking randos,  then you really aren’t ready for this book. You know that wobbly table you’ve got? For now, put this book under the short leg of that table to steady the wobble. Put it on a shelf, bury it in your closet, use it as a coaster. But keep it around for that moment when you realize that you want a relationship and […]

Owning a Third Place

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When I was in high school, a large portion of the focus of the funding was on sports. Our teams always had new uniforms and the best equipment, we had pretty big pep rallies, and there was always money for trips, etc. The English Department was another story entirely. We had books that were reused year after year, very few actual trips, and even fewer actual supplies, so as a student I decided to do something about that. At the time, I had a band that I was singing in and I knew a lot of great musicians and other […]

Lori Eberly: Fighting Fuckery, One Executive at a Time

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I recently had the privilege of sitting down with hospice social worker-turned- badass executive coach, Lori Eberly.  Her well-received book Fuckery, discusses the perils of rudimentary habits that damage trust within the workplace and offers advice on how to change the behaviors that create this toxic environment. She currently is the founder of Radius ECD, an executive coaching and development firm located in Portland Oregon.  Now before I dive into the interview, I felt I should add this in as a full disclosure. Sitting down with Eberly was somewhat nerve-wracking due to this being my rookie debut into the world […]

Luxe Love Lifestyle

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What is our fascination with luxury? Why do we love it? If you were to describe the picture above, what comes to mind? Beauty, comfort, relaxation, opulence, love, care, cleanliness, gleaming, quiet, attention to detail, rest, private, exclusive, soft, warm, safe, restorative, healing, special, unique, rare, pristine, perfect, highest standards of excellence……to name a few? I’ve been grappling with my relationship to the material world and pursuit of worldly goods. I was raised in a conservative and humble household. While we placed an emphasis on quality, somehow I became enchanted with luxury, brands, high-end accommodations and experiences. I’d like to […]

Eyes on the (Real) Prize

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  Sydney, Australia, 1989. So here I was… making it in the super-competitive business world. I was: heir apparent in a major multi-national ad firm, marketing writer, national new-business director, just voted in the top 10 across the country, blah blah. An ‘80’s Mad Man. And then we had a third child, unexpectedly. I came home one night late (as usual) from the office and my wife asked me to change our 6-month-old son’s diapers. But as he was lying on his back on the changing table, I saw in his eyes a look which I’ve ever forgotten. That look […]