An American Intervention

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Photo: The author inside a human cage at The Whitney Plantation, the only American plantation restored to honor the memory and plight of enslaved African people. Welcome to the week of waking up. I am watching the stream of Official Statements from various organizations from the back of the room, leaning against the wall with my arms crossed, side of my mouth turned up and brow furrowed. This week of black squares on social media has been what the rainbow logo is to Pride week: easy, convenient, trendy. Meaningless unless followed by tangible, measurable action. Businesses that declare support for […]

I Need A Hug… A Single Extrovert’s Worst Nightmare

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Here we are, through March 2020, where most of us probably feel like February was four years ago instead of four weeks. Our lives have been turned upside down, and let me tell you, this weekend was one of the hardest times of my entire life. I don’t think I’ve experienced sadness or anxiety like I have since I was a little girl trying to figure out my childhood that forced me to grow up and take care of myself much faster than any five year old should. Saturday I took a 48-mile bike ride just to wear out some […]

Join Pregame: Virtual Membership Now Open!

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Pregame is all about helping you achieve your goals with the support of a team. We’re excited to open Pregame Membership to players everywhere. [learn more] Virtual membership has always been part of our long term game plan, but thanks to the coronavirus, we stepped up and moved everything online overnight. The silver lining? Now we can welcome you to our team, no matter where you are. For the past four years (plus five years of events before that), we’ve exclusively held our daily workshops in person. Nothing matches the magic of live interaction… or so we thought. It turns […]

April 2020: The Coronavirus Interlude

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And then suddenly, everything changed. We interrupt our regularly scheduled magazine issue to start unpacking the only topic that matters right now. On April 1, 2020, we find ourselves in the middle of a global pandemic. Approximately two weeks from its peak in America. But this is only the beginning. We will be changed, permanently, by this uniquely global event. While it’s difficult to editorialize about the coronavirus as it happens, lacking any clarify of hindsight, we decided to use writing as a sort of therapy to explore what this means now, and what it could mean. We are in […]

The Schrute Room Test

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I’ve spoken before about the many lessons that can be found in the show The Office, but here is one of my favorites: There’s an episode where Michael and Dwight are both at a hotel and Michael finds out that he doesn’t have a hotel room to stay in. After being turned down, Dwight shows up with his reservation number and gets the material for his room. At this point, Michael is begging Dwight to stay in his room with him and says “I’d do the same for you” at which point Dwight looks quizzically at the paper and says that […]

Love and Lessons

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I’m not going to make up statistics, but it seems like most people become parents on accident and then improvise as needed, accepting their new role, as humans do, fairly easily. I think I may have a skewed view of that, and the ‘accidents’ just stick with my memory better, but it does seem that more times than not, it’s either a true accident or something along the lines of “well, we weren’t NOT trying.” I love that one. Nothing like a double negative to soften a vulnerable position. When I decided at 39 to get pregnant, I had my […]

February 2020: Legacy

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We all have an urge to create. To put our stamp on the world. To leave a legacy. I learned this from Nick, a friend with whom I’d recently reunited. He had become a priest, serving as a hospital chaplain. Sitting in Madison Square Park, we caught up over coffee from the Mud Truck one spring afternoon. I was fascinated by the sheer amount of time he had spent with dying people; more than anyone else I knew at our age. I asked, “What’s the one biggest takeaway you have from being around people at the end of life?” He […]

January 2020: Clarity

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Welcome to the new decade! (Well, yes, chronology purists, it doesn’t technically start until 2021, but play along.) As you know, we’re all about the New Year: fresh starts, renewed vision, and best of all, new goals. In the year 2020, it’s impossible for us to resist the obvious metaphor: perfect vision. When deciding on the next goal or even just the next step, how do we get clarity? Clarity on what we really want (versus what others want for us), whether now is the right time (or we’re hanging on to something from the past), and why we’re going for it […]

December 2019: Measuring Impact

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It’s the season of giving, and many of us are already spent. When we’re not running a business or tackling another big work project, we’ve been managing major life events from sending kids off to college to losing a parent. All of this while dodging social media and the the relentless onslaught of impeachment hearings and Democratic presidential candidates. Living in the modern world, for all its progress and convenience, brings new sources of anxiety. We’re always on, always plugged in, constantly measuring ourselves. The price of convenience caries a massive cost in real connection and sustained attention. Is it […]

Performative Reciprocity

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I have a friend who really loves to do calls where we get into the weeds of relationship-building methodologies. He enjoys digging deeper into the frameworks I’ve developed and in all our calls he gets me to go even deeper into the work that I do. And before I get into the topic he brought up, I’ll also add that having someone like this in your circle can be incredibly valuable to the rigor of your work. There are those who will take your ideas at face value and then there are those who will challenge your ideas with questions. […]