Owning a Third Place

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When I was in high school, a large portion of the focus of the funding was on sports. Our teams always had new uniforms and the best equipment, we had pretty big pep rallies, and there was always money for trips, etc. The English Department was another story entirely. We had books that were reused year after year, very few actual trips, and even fewer actual supplies, so as a student I decided to do something about that. At the time, I had a band that I was singing in and I knew a lot of great musicians and other […]

Are You Living Your Practice Life or Your Real Life?

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As a life and career coach, I’m supposed to have my shit together. But I don’t. I don’t make enough money to pay my bills. I don’t eat right. I don’t have a life partner. I’ll never be in shape the way I was when I was swimming 4 miles a day. Or when I was training for a marathon. It’s beyond embarrassing to admit this—that I don’t have my shit together— yet, it’s so, so necessary. All these “shoulds” and “supposed tos” have stood between me … and everyone. No one ever really has ALL their shit figured out […]

Culture Guru: Be Authentic. Also Culture Guru: But Not Like That.

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Have you ever looked in the mirror and been surprised that the person staring back at you was so much OLDER than you feel inside? That cognitive dissonance could be the result of a poorly defined self-image, but more often that not it’s because our core being doesn’t really age. Even as time passes and life presents new challenges and opportunities, who we are at our core remains unchanged, timeless. I call this the Authentic Self. The term authenticity is overused and hackneyed, yet it has always been and continues to be the bedrock of my ethos. My work as […]

Six Things You Can Do Right Now to Move Toward Finding Your Soulmate

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In 2013, I decided to make some significant changes in my life.  I was divorced, working in administrative assistant level positions, doodling on the sides of my notebooks, and wondering where my ambition and passion had gone. What was I doing?! What did I really want in my one, beautiful life? Luckily I had some great friends on the same journey. Asking themselves the same questions. One of those friends was Heidi Busche Jasmond. Heidi was two steps ahead in her journey of self-discovery and finding love. I got to watch her do the work that has now become her […]

Dangerous Misconceptions About “Self-Care”

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When did “self-care” become synonymous with getting our nails done? For the record, I love having my nails done, but it’s not self-care. My Self doesn’t need pretty nails; my ego does. (And, yes, I realize people paint their nails for other reasons.) When we talk about self-care, it’s essential to examine our motivations to be sure that we are supporting our Selves and health rather than inadvertently undermining our self-esteem. Self-care is not irresponsible indulgence; although true self-care may feel indulgent because it’s rarely practiced. Self-care is not about feeding our ego, which is insatiable. It’s not about what […]

When Positivity is Privilege: Nonviolent Communication for Emotional Intelligence

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Who among us hasn’t felt—in a moment of heartache or sorrow or rage or any other or so-called “negative” emotion—that if we just could change X about ourselves (or someone else) we could achieve Y, Z, or maybe the entire rest of the alphabet? The allure of this sort of magical thinking compells me to write frequently about the perils of positive psychology and for good reason: the more obsessed mainstream America becomes obsessed with “good vibes only” the less tolerant and inclusive we become. In fact, in many ways, positive psychology is like a new form of evangelism, one […]

One Step

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Lao Tzu famously wrote that the journey of a thousand miles starts with one step, which despite its face value, “yeah, no shit” philosophy, tells me that even the greatest achievements and distances are realized in the smallest of increments, and that paramount to all, is that there is a start. One must simply start, as small a step as it may be, in order to get from here to there, as great a distance as that may be. I find myself at the precipice of the trip of a lifetime, but much different than any I’ve ever taken before. […]

Running Toward Me

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The day that I left Indiana I had to pull over to the side of the road after passing the Illinois border to cry. I couldn’t contain myself and didn’t want to swerve into the median or off into the corn. I finally did it. I always wanted to leave Indianapolis, and for years I put it off. I was so afraid of what the possibility of self-actualization might look like that I was paralyzed. Until that moment I had never been overwhelmed with happiness and I was moved to tears, both unexpected surprises. The day that I landed in […]

Energy Accounting: 3 Ways to Manage Your Energy Like a Wealthy Person

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Explore these questions and more with Marissa this summer at Pregame HQ Energy, our personal life force, intrinsic motivation, vibe, ch’i, or aura have many qualitative measures. High vibration is considered preferable, while low vibration is associated with negative attitudes. Frenetic comes across as a rather annoying – an unnecessary expenditure. Slow, slothy energy gets a bad wrap for being a drag. Assessing energy by these qualitative measures is subjective, and might not be all that helpful. Thinking of our energy similarly to how we conceive of money allows us to make use of a few tried and true wealth […]

June 2019: Journeys

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Pregame is all about goals, but lately, we’ve been talk about souls. The daily “workouts” at the Pregame Clubhouse focus on business: clarifying your goals, creating a game plan, staying accountable for your actions, and connecting with the people who will help move you forward. But why are we doing it? What is the point of building a business? For Pregame members, it’s about building an extraordinary and authentic life. In fact, that’s the primary goal. Business is but a platform to extend one’s larger mission and values to the place where we spend the majority of our time and […]